Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure: plus Orgasm Coaching, Genital Anatomy, Scar Tissue Healing and more from a Pioneering Somatic Sex Educator

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It is your birthright to live a life filled with erotic joy. This book will show you how to make it so, and how to teach others, through touch. You will learn about sexual healing, erotic energy cultivation, and sensual and erotic massage. Caffyn Jesse gives stroke-by-stroke instructions for pleasuring penises and vulvas. Chapters on orgasm coaching will vastly expand your orgasmic capacities. Her toolbox includes techniques ranging from scar tissue healing to spanking. Original illustrations show the specifics of pelvic, genital and anal anatomy. Powerful practices guide you in awakening the full potential of your sexuality. Erotic massage provides an ideal environment for healing and learning about sex. But without appropriate safeguards and clear boundaries, erotic massage can retraumatize already wounded people. Caffyn Jesse offers vital guidance on the ethics of practice. PREFACE INTRODUCTION SEXUAL HEALING The three-legged stool of sexual healing Learning to Choose Pleasure Empowering Choice and Voice Sexual Healing through Bodywork Healing our Relationship with Sexual Energy ACCESSING FULL EMBODIMENT Sound Movement Imagination Love Mindful Erotic Practice Exercises for Accessing Full Embodiment Exercise 1: Prana Pump with the Pelvic Diaphragm Exercise 2: Wand of Light Exercise 3: Catch Fire Exercise 4: The Microcosmic Orbit Exercise 5: Chakra Vibrations Resources SENSUAL MASSAGE How to Touch Sensual Massage is not Therapeutic Massage Preparations Basic Massage Strokes Massage Ergonomics Knowing When Not to Massage Exercise 6: A Basic Massage Routine Exercise 7: Breast Massage Resources TOUCHING WOMEN Introduction The Vulva: Anatomy Exercise 8: Vulva Mapping Resources ORGASM COACHING FOR WOMEN Clitoral Glans Orgasm Full Clitoral Complex Orgasm(s) Vaginal Orgasms Sacred Spot Massage Squirting Orgasms Blended Orgasms A-Spot Orgasms Anal Orgasms Valley Orgasms Three Sacred Waters of Female Arousal Expanded orgasms Exercise 9: Expand Orgasms with Breath Tips for the non-orgasmic Conclusion Resources APPROACHES TO VULVA TOUCH Mindful Erotic Practice Ritual Exercise 10: Erotic Ritual for Women Taoist Erotic Massage Exercise 11: Taoist Erotic Massage for Women Pelvic Opening Massage Exercise 12: Pelvic Opening Massage Healing Touch Meditation Exercise 13: Healing Touch Meditation Standing G-Spot Massage: A 10-Step Technique Exercise 14: Standing G-Spot Massage Resources TOUCHING MEN Introduction Male Genital Anatomy Arousal and Erection Exercise 15: Mapping the Male Genitals Conclusion Resources ORGASM COACHING FOR MEN Basic Ejaculatory Orgasm Expanded Orgasmic Sensation Separating Orgasm and Ejaculation Orgasmic Events Soft Penis Orgasms Anal Orgasms Sound Orgasms Three Sacred Waters of Male Arousal Letting Go of the Agenda of Orgasm Resources APPROACHES TO TOUCHING PENISES Exercise 16: Exploring Inner Aliveness Create an Erotic Ritual Exercise 17: Erotic Ritual for Men Taoist Erotic Massage for Men Exercise 18: Taoist Erotic Massage for Men Resources TOUCHING GENDER Challenging Gender Assumptions Gender Identity, Gender Expression, Biological Sex and Who We are Attracted To Working with Gender-Variant People Conclusion Resources ANAL MASSAGE Encountering the “Electric Fence” Before you start: Precautions about anal exploration Anal Anatomy Exercise 19: Anal Mapping Conclusion Resources References HEALING PAINFUL SEX Exercise 20: Fascial Unwinding Exercise 21: Scar Tissue Massage Case Studies Circumcision Scars Peyronie’s Disease Conclusion Resources References SOFT RESTRAINT AND BOLD SENSATION Negotiation Safe Words and Check-ins Precautions Restraint Rough Handling Sensation Toys Aftercare Resources References COMMUNAL EROTIC EXPERIENCE Resources References ECSTATIC EMBODIMENT What is Sexual Energy? Coming Home to the Body Addressing Shame and Fear Empowering Choices and Boundaries Transforming Gender Tantric Practices Taoist Practices What is Sacred Intimacy? Resources References PROFESSIONAL ETHICS AND BOUNDARIES Create a safe container Understand the potential for harm Refrain from Exploitation Understand the paradigm of romance and relationship Avoid shaming a client’s desires Avoid dual relationships Represent honestly the benefits and limitations of treatment Right to Privacy Maintain Continuing Competency Don’t Mix Bodily Fluids! Resources References APPENDIX: EROTIC MASSAGE STROKES Breast Massage Strokes