FUCK IT!: Meditations of an ex-porn addict

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-You, probably, at some point of your life (and me too). This is the mentality of a coomer in a false syllogism:  PMOing is healthy, it takes away stress, and it gives me satisfaction on a personal, sexual and spiritual level.  I can't control my porn consumption, when I suffer or feel depressed, I turn to PMO, and in the end, I keep suffering and feeling depressed, because PMO doesn't solve any of my problems or their causes, on the contrary, it took time that I could hav...  Therefore, PMOing is healthy, it takes away stress, and it gives me satisfaction on a personal, sexual and spiritual level. I will assume, for the sake of brevity, that you, my dear reader, are familiar with the coomer meme. This Wojak is a mockery of someone who is immersed in his addiction, and has unwittingly lost control of himself. I see it as a wonderful act of tryin... The Coomer is an archetypal figure that warns against the consequences of sex addiction and genital worship. Much like Tolkien’s Gollum, whose obsession with the One Ring reduced him to a wraith-like figure, the Coomer is a pitiful creature. Invoking ... We must always remember that the coomer is a caricature of reality. Unfortunately, it is being used to attack addicts rather than help them. If the addict feels alienated rather than supported in recognizing and dealing with his problem, he will turn ... Some will remember the subreddit r/Coomer, dedicated to posting porn addiction memes, which, because of its poor moderation, slowly became a platform for hate. The mockery was no longer a reason to raise awareness. Those who explain the world with six... We must realize this: addicts are no longer interested, for the time being, in the physical and mental damage that they are doing to themselves. They are interested in the end of their suffering, nothing else. When they learn that there is a method in... This is the average mentality of someone who "fights" porn addiction in a false syllogism:  Fighting the temptation to consume the material I desire is very difficult! I have invincible urges! I'm addicted to porn!  I don't want or desire to watch porn, nor do I need PMO in my life.  Therefore, fighting against the temptation to consume the material I desire is very difficult! I have invincible urges! I am addicted to porn! If I had to describe this community, I would say that we are like a bunch of sperm trying to reach the egg. But that's obviously a simplistic view of the real problem. There are a lot of people in a lot of sectors affected by the effects of the porn i... NoFap is the community of perpetual failure, and will remain so unless they accept new approaches. Their problem comes from the 90-day challenges, for if that is their foundation, then they are already walking into the wrong place. NoFap subjects the ... To explain this better, read the following post that the user u/hk9 posted on r/pmohackbook: "The Final Guide" X-post From Another User On How The PMO Hackbook Makes Quitting PMO Effortless. The following is a repost from u/UpaCha*, since the* r/NoFap Mods deleted the original post I can't link to it directly. The "OP" that he refers to is a direct link to the original PMO hackbook site. I had read the hackbook a couple of times and it ha... 1. [see OP] 2. [see OP] 3. Realize that this was neither a sacrifice nor an accomplishment. 4. Stop counting. 5. Drop the label. 6. Leave. Explanation for each step: 1. This is the best book(?) I've found, based on a successful book on how to stop smoking. 2. Step 3-6 requires the reader to have completed step 1. 3. My great-grandfather was a sailor, a simple man with simple tastes, his life was traveling port to port earning money for his family back home. Among the crew was a man with a smoking habit, though I forgot whether his complaints were about the cos... 4. I didn't stop playing video games by counting the days since my last Steam login, I didn't find love by counting the days since my last breakup, I didn't start eating healthy by counting the days since my last visit to McDonalds, I didn't stop smok... 5. Similar to 4, this is so destructive I'm wondering if this wasn't a PSYOP made to trick people into an endless cycle. Imagine me labeling myself as a NoGames, a NoBreakups, a NoMcDonalds, a NoWeed or my friend-of-a-friend-of-a-friend talking to me ... 6. Leave. I look to my right and I see 216,912 "Fapstronauts," "Fapstronauts currently online: 356," "The new day counters are LIVE!" "PANIC BUTTON! - RELAPSE PREVENTION TOOL" what is this bullshit? Seriously whoever is behind this page, is literally ... 7. If you're not into reading, start today. Use gen.lib.rus.ec to find any book you want to download, start making your own personal library. 8. (and final point) I went through the top posts here and I see a lot of people using words like "I think" and "maybe" and "this time" etc. I think you guys need a mindset 101: Mindset 101:  "Who, if not you? When, if not now?"  Replace HAVE TO/NEED TO/GOT TO with WILL DO.  Replace IF with WHEN.  Your thoughts manifest themselves, confident mind -> confident body. If you don't like the recovery community, you can start your own. If you're interested in helping the community you are already in, change it the way you see fit. Another sector that I have seen being unfairly attacked is that of sex workers. The reality is that the vast majority of them are forced to participate in the industry, being threatened, extorted, deceived, or simply being the only option left to surv... Both physical and digital prostitutes deserve more empathy than the one we are currently giving them. Young women with access to the internet are learning that a sexually provocative picture gains them attention, and their reward is that beautiful dop... Whose fault is it mostly that this happens, those who produce the content, or a society that supports, allows, and defends these acts? What is more beneficial to focus on, to attack the consequence, or to remedy the cause? To understand the perspective of someone who was in the industry, read the following answer to a post from a user whose username I unfortunately did not manage to recover: Pornstars of reddit, what are the dirty secrets in your industry?  We lie to you. We're selling a product - the sex, the persona, whatever. Like actors do press tours, everything a porn star (or any other king of sex worker) does on social media is advertising to convince you to buy. So we tell you we love it, that...  So much abuse. Drug abuse, emotional blackmail. Rape is more common than anyone wants to acknowledge and one of the things that made me quit and get intense therapy was the knowledge of how many rape scenes are real. I experienced what was packaged ...  There are so many victims stuck in the industry. You don't know right away but then you talk, or you watch in between filming and you just know, you hear the rumors .... Buyers have no idea except in the back of their minds that there are so many ab...  A lot of people work sick. Which is just uncomfortable. So many scenes where someone is hurling into a bucket off camera or running into the bathroom. Fainting isn't uncommon. Weird sensations like numbness or tight chests or muscles which I guess i...  Other "stars" can be worse than the staff. Because if you make the industry look bad, people start asking questions, they might lose buyers and money. They can push you more and sometimes get away with more under the guise of "encouragement" or "pro...  Young men from all over Asia are heavily exploited. It breaks my heart. So many of these guys are so young and poor and put into uncomfortable gay male scenes.  The trends towards extremer and extremer acts is disturbing and makes me glad I am safe from it. It's worst in gay male & straight scenes. I have no experience of the former because I'm not a guy, but I've heard stories and scene enough footage. It'...  When you say this stuff people send you death threats and rape threats, doesn't matter if you're a guy or girl. You get told the most vilest things. People are terrified of getting violent threats if they speak out about. The Hackbook is obviously far from being totally effective. This is proven by the amount of posts in its subreddit that advertise its persistence in addiction after reading the book. It cannot be verified whether these people followed the instructions... Still, I sincerely believe that it is the best method we have to date to free many from addiction. And there's no denying that, for those who have been caught up in more conventional methods, such as willpower, it can turn out to be a lifesaver, a dri... There are a few unfortunate people who openly reject the book without giving it a chance or finishing it off, perhaps out of fear of quitting their addiction. Why are the most popular communities labeled "the best" when they prove themselves time and ... I imagine that it must be largely comfortable "fighting" the addiction, it must be very pleasant to relapse again and again, having an entire community with you who is failing the same way. It's more miserable for someone who says he wants to escape f... Now, the method offered by the book does NOT work for everyone. It does not work for those who do not want to be free of their addiction. You may have read the Hackbook over and over again, you may have taken off your veil and seen the lies that porn ... Then the cycle of self-contempt can begin, in which one hates oneself and then falls back. After relapsing, he feels bad about it and wants to change, but he feels that a person as bad and terrible as himself does not deserve something as good as free... There is no concrete guide for using the book, beyond following the instructions. But from there on out, you can take your own notes, ask questions, write your own reflections (like me now!), and feel free to absorb its contents in whatever way you pl... It is important to understand the book, but it is more important to understand yourself. Can we turn the fight against pornography into an "inevitable victory"? I don't think so, but I certainly believe that we have the capacity to strive every day to make sure that we eventually succeed. If we want to find a definitive cure, the road is ... Masakatsu Agatsu Katsuhayabi – True victory is self-victory, here and now. First release: June 2020. Last edited: September 2020.