Grindr Survivor: How to Find Happiness in the Age of Hookup Apps

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What would Grindr be like if it offered opportunities to actually connect with people rather than just react according to our base instincts? This book about Grindr aims to do just that. For far too long, gay men have moaned and complained about gay dating apps, and yet they feel powerless to do anything about it. Grindr and "app culture" have radically transformed how members of the gay community interact, and while finding “dates” has become easier, it seems as if finding anything of substance has become nearly impossible. We're just surviving apps like Grindr, rather than using them to live fully in the moment. Grindr Survivr is a book designed to give readers a guide on how to find happiness in the new age of dating apps. It gives readers a thorough understanding of how Grindr is changing the gay scene, and by extension, how such apps have changed each of us as individuals. Often, we aren’t even aware of how deeply we’ve been changed by these apps, but we can’t expect a different result until we look at ourselves, our behavior patterns and our community and resolve to transform all of them. Grindr users are encouraged to follow the “Gay Commandments” that every gay man should live by if Grindr users want to find relationships of substance (or even merely stop suffering and worrying about what happens online). The Gay Commandments aren’t preachy at all, but rather they are a call to interject a moral baseline into online behavior – but all the while the book gives honest and humorous anecdotes from his own personal dating experience. The author's not afraid to reveal his own failings in order to help readers learn from his mistakes. The Gay Commandments also include numerous “action points” that are that are designed to give readers new insights and new results (rather than just stating an overwhelming problem and not giving you anything to do about it). Readers will laugh and see themselves in the author’s unique and wry perspectives on gay dating. Dating apps like Grindr and Tinder are here to stay. It's time to stop surviving these apps and start using them to thrive. Introduction: Why Write a Book About Grindr? PART I: THE PROBLEMS WITH GRINDR 1 Welcome to Your Grindr Hell 2 is Merely Technology 3 Is Making Us Cheap 4 : Grindr Makes Us More Superficial Chapter 5: Grindr Makes Us Nasty (Or More Tolerant of Nasty Behavior) Chapter 6: Is Hook Up Culture Eating Away At Our Souls? PART II: THE GRINDR COMMANDMENTS Why We Need a Moral Code! : Thou Shalt Not Be a Douche! : Blame Yo’ Self! II: Thou Shalt Not Seek Perfection! IV: Know Thyself: Know What You’re Committed to! : Thou Shalt Conversate! : Thou Shalt Not Be a Time Waster! : Thou Shalt Not Be Flakey! VIII: Thou Shalt Judge by Actions, Not Words! IX: Thou Shalt Remain Joyful! X: Thou Shalt Ignore The Noise! Commandment Summary PART III: GENERAL TIPS , TECHNIQUES , & RECOMMENDATIONS 1 How to Navigate the Tinder Trap 2 Do You Look Like Your Photos? Chapter 3: How to Spot Fake or Deceptive Profiles 4 No More Coffee Dates (And Other First Date Tips) Chapter 5: Bring Your Kinky Boots Conclusion