Give and Take: Creating Marital Compatibility

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Most couples begin marriage blissfully compatible and deeply in love. But they usually don't stay that way. Why? In Give and Take you will find out why you and your spouse may have lost the compatibility you started with. Then Dr. Harley will show you how to restore it, making you not only compatible, but also as much in love with each other as you ever were. You will learn about your Giver and Taker (and about your spouse's Giver and Taker). You will learn how they can mess up your marriage, but also how to educate these characters and turn them into heroes. Dr. Harley will also introduce you to the "three states of marriage" that prevent couples from getting what they need most in marriage. But with Dr. Harley's help, you will learn to overcome their destructive influence. You will learn to give what your spouse needs most in marriage, and take what you need most in return. By learning to give and take fairly and effectively, you and your spouse can grow in love and compatibility. Contents......Page 11 Part I. Negotiating for Compatiblity......Page 13 Part II. Learning to Protect......Page 71 Part III. Learning to Care......Page 129 Appendixes......Page 245 A: Love Busters Questionnaire......Page 247 B. Emotional Needs Questionnaire......Page 255 C. Friends and Enemies of Good Conversation Inventory......Page 267 D. Strategy to Meet the Need of Conversation......Page 271 E. Friends and Enemies of Good Conversation Worksheet......Page 273 F. Sexual Experience Inventory......Page 277 G. Strategy to Create a Stage of Sexual Experience......Page 281 I. Sexual Fulfillment Worksheet......Page 285 J. Affection Inventory......Page 287 K. Strategy to Meet the Need of Affection......Page 291 L. Affection Worksheet......Page 293 M. Recreational Enjoyment Inventory......Page 295 N. Strategy to Meet the Need of Recreational Companionship......Page 301 O. Recreational Companionship Worksheet......Page 303 About the Author......Page 305