It's None of My Business What You Think of Me!

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Life is a series of contracts the ego makes with itself; reality is the shadow these contracts put upon our souls. Just as a businessman makes a contract with other businessmen, so too does your ego make contracts. These contracts begin when you are a child, and you unknowingly enter into them with your parents, friends, teachers, employers, and the mass media. These contracts will make you poor, sad, and unhealthy if they are kept. Our ego tells us how much time and effort to spend in getting others to approve of us. Everyone goes through a domestication period-a time where others tell us what we should eat, act like, want, and not want. This domestication period ends when we decide that it has ended. INTRODUCTION: What Grandmother Said My Grandmother's secret Recipe of Life: 16-36-66 Principle PART 1: Age 16 CHAPTER ONE: Ego and the Contracts It Makes with Itself Domestication The Baseball Mitt The Power of Words Nancy A Positive Example The Cult of Domestication Limiting Yourself Labels CHAPTER TWO: Domestication, a Closer Look Don't Waste Your Energy Know Who You Are The Environment of Domestication Self-Judgment The Contracts You Make CHAPTER THREE: The Two Doors: Fear Versus Love Fear, the Frantic Voice Love, the Quiet Voice CHAPTER FOUR: Sin A New Definition of Sin An Improved Definition of Sin Sins We Commit CHAPTER FIVE: Perception Act from a State of Presence Do Not Take It Personally Your Perception about Yourself Your Perceptions Are Not Your Own Changing Perceptions: Lose the Critical Spirit CHAPTER SIX: Giving It Your All Why Give 100 Percent When 70 Percent Will Do? Do Not Be a Clock-Watcher Marriage Contrast PART 2: Age 36 CHAPTER SEVEN: Choosing a Career Did You Choose Your Career or Did Your Career Choose You? Scripts You Are Fed Taking Control A Personal Story Career Choices to Make if You Are a Teen or Young Adult How to Find Your Archetype Career Choices to Make if You Are a Parent of a Teen CHAPTER EIGHT: Lifestyle by Design How Do You Approach Life Situations? Do You Choose Life or Does Life Choose You? Would You Give a Four-Year-old a $100 Bill? Is Choosing Against All odds Madness? You Are Enough CHAPTER NINE: The Power of Words Becoming Gossip-Resistant Intentional Spell-Casting Gossip by the Group Your Internal Axiom CHAPTER TEN: It Is Never about You, It Is Always about Them Subjective Reality Guilt CHAPTER ELEVEN: Presumptions of the EGo We Believe What We Presume Do not Assume Justifying the Ego Negotiating a Relationship CHAPTER TWELVE: Marriage and Responsibilities Practical Love Problem Patterns in a Marriage It Is OK to Love Yourself First A Word about Sex Responsibilities and Children PART 3: Age 66 CHAPTER THIRTEEN: Grandmother's Advice on Living an Optimal Life The six Golden Saviors Optimism Unlearning Optimism Purpose Goals Action Courage Humility and Graciousness Ways to Practice Humility and Graciousness CHAPTER FOURTEEN: Final Thoughts and Conclusions The Pain Body Find Your True Consciousness Your Call-to-Action: The Answer to the Question ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Peter Baksa on Giving Back NOTES