Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape

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CONTENTS Foreword . . . 1 Introduction . . . 5 1 Offensive Feminism: The Conservative Gender Norms That Perpetuate Rape Culture, and How Feminists Can Fight Back 13 2 Toward a Performance Model of Sex 29 3 Beyond Yes or No: Consent as Sexual Process . . . 43 4 A Woman’s Worth . . . 53 5 How Do You Fuck a Fat Woman? . . . 67 6 Queering Black Female Heterosexuality 77 7 What It Feels Like When It Finally Comes: Surviving Incestin Real Life . . . 93 8 A Love Letter from an Anti-Rape Activist to Her Feminist Sex-Toy Store . . . 107 9 The Fantasy of Acceptable “Non-Consent”: Why the Female Sexual Submissive Scares Us (and Why She Shouldn’t) . . . 117 10 Invasion of Space by a Female . . . 127 11 When Sexual Autonomy Isn’t Enough: Sexual Violence Against Immigrant Women in the United States . . . 141 12 Trial by Media: Black Female Lasciviousness and the Question of Consent . . . 151 13 An Old Enemy in a New Outfit: How Date Rape Became Gray Rape and Why It Matters . . . 163 14 Reclaiming Touch: Rape Culture, Explicit Verbal Consent, and Body Sovereignty 171 15 An Immodest Proposal . . . 179 16 Hooking Up with Healthy Sexuality: The Lessons Boys Learn (and Don’t Learn) About Sexuality, and Why a Sex-Positive Rape Prevention Paradigm Can Benefit Everyone Involved . . . 193 17 The Not-Rape Epidemic . . . 209 18 Shame Is the First Betrayer . . . 221 19 Why Nice Guys Finish Last . . . 227 20 Sex Worth Fighting For . . . 241 Killing Misogyny: A Personal Story of Love, Violence, and Strategies for Survival 251 22 When Pregnancy Is Outlawed, Only Outlaws WillBe Pregnant . . . 265 23 Who’re You Calling a Whore?: A Conversation with Three Sex Workers on Sexuality, Empowerment, and the Industry . . . 273 24 The Process-Oriented Virgin . . . 287 25 Purely Rape: The Myth of Sexual Purity and How It Reinforces Rape Culture . . . 299 26 Real Sex Education . . . 305 27 In Defense of Going Wild or: How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love Pleasure (and How You Can, Too) . . . 313 notes . . . 321 contents [by theme] . . . 333 about the contributors . . . 341