The Happy Me Project

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A no-nonsense guide to personal development, with real-life advice, for the skeptics of self-improvement. Self-development used to be something confined to a very particular sect of society and it all seemed a little outlandish for a huge chunk of the population, but now it's time for self-development to stop trying to be fancy and start becoming the norm. Fed up with your daily routine? Crippled with self-doubt? Exhausted from people-pleasing? Or simply facing a particularly challenging time? Whatever your circumstance, Holly Matthews has friendly and accessible advice on how to face life's challenges head-on and find the moments of joy again. It's a light-hearted approach with a powerful message behind the words. Holly shares her own stories of triumph over adversity. In 2017 Holly became a widowed mom of two girls when her husband Ross died from brain cancer. Before this, Holly worked as a television actress for years and experienced the emotional ups and downs that come with growing up in the public eye. By opening up about her own vulnerabilities, Holly hopes to give others the confidence to face their own bumps in the road, big or small. The Happy Me Project is 60 short, powerful chapters of straight-to-the-point self-help that you can dip in and out of as needed. Each page gives you practical guidance from someone who lives and breathes what she teaches, with real-life examples and actionable techniques to test out at home. Half Title Title Page Copyright Page Dedication Contents Introduction Why me? Chapter 1: How the brain works How do I get my brain working for me? Chapter 2: That old belief is holding you back How to get rid of your limiting beliefs Chapter 3: Stop moaning! I want to stop moaning, but I don’t know how Chapter 4: Mix it up How to shake your life like Shakira shakes her hips! Chapter 5: Let’s not be busy fools How to stop going faster and be more zen master Chapter 6: No one is coming to save you How do you escape the ‘waiting for a fairy godmother’ state of mind? Chapter 7: Set big fat goals How can I be SMART and have ‘hustle and heart’? Chapter 8: You’re being a bully to yourself How to shut up the negative voice Chapter 9: You’re amazing (a pep talk) I may need a little work on feeling amazing, how can I do this? Chapter 10: Don’t give up How to keep going when you want to give up Chapter 11: Be weird How to own your weird Chapter 12: Don’t take yourself so seriously Hit me up with some playtime ideas, I’m ready to clown Chapter 13: Gratitude is a game changer I’m ready to feel happy and grateful, where do I start? Chapter 14: Saying ‘yes’ when you mean ‘hell no!’ How to say ‘no’ and feel OK about it Chapter 15: What does your ideal life look like? It’s time to work out what YOU want Chapter 16: That thing that happened doesn’t define you I’m ready for my transformation… Chapter 17: Morning ritual I’m ready to create my routine, where do I begin? Chapter 18: It’s not all about you How to keep your ego in check Chapter 19: Negative people, what’s their problem? How on earth do we deal with negative people? Chapter 20: Spilling the tea on fake social media lives How can you protect yourself and not join in the phoney game of ‘look at me’? Chapter 21: Tell someone to ’eff off How to speak your mind and still be kind Chapter 22: Nature not Netflix Get me to the garden, I want to feel great! Chapter 23: Affirmations I’m down for these affirmations, where do I start? Chapter 24: What they think is none of your business I don’t want to let other’s opinions control my life, what shall I do? Chapter 25: Whatever gets you through the tough bits When things get rough, how to get tough… Chapter 26: Addicted to drama I’m exhausted and I want calm. What shall I do? Chapter 27: Watch your mouth Now it’s your turn Chapter 28: Ask for help I’m dreading this, but I’m ready to ask for help! Chapter 29: Change your BS story I’m ready to change my BS story, what can I do next? Chapter 30: Do nothing I’m ready to niks my day, how is it done? Chapter 31: Mindful AF I want to be present, what do I do? Chapter 32: Stop being so damn ‘judgy’ The judgement ‘shake off’ Chapter 33: Be more boring OK, I want good habits, where do I start? Chapter 34: Be ruthless with your inner circle I’m ready to build my circle of inspiring cohorts, where do I start? Chapter 35: Big girls DO cry Fetch me the tissues, I’m ready to cry Chapter 36: Celebrate your victories Fetch the party poppers, I’m ready to cheer for myself! Chapter 37: Feeling like a fraud I wanna shake away my inner charlatan, what’s the plan of action? Chapter 38: Some days are crap My day feels crap, how do I bounce back? Chapter 39: The art of overthinking I’m feeling better about my overthinking, but it’s still annoying, what can I do? Chapter 40: We’re all going to die! I’m going to die, so how can I make sure I’m alive now? Chapter 41: Be nice I want to be nice AF, how can I spread the love? Chapter 42: Making friends with fear I’m scared of lots of stuff, what can I do? Chapter 43: Comparison What to do today, like right now! Chapter 44: Love hard I want more love, how can I bring it into my world? Chapter 45: Make trouble – break the rules How to become a kick-ass rule-breaking legend! Chapter 46: You’re not running out of time I feel like I’ve missed the boat, what can I do? Chapter 47: Is this a good idea? There are so many choices, what can I do? Chapter 48: Getting to know yourself I wanna work out who I am, where do I start? Chapter 49: Guilt I’m weighed down with guilt, what should I do? Chapter 50: Heavily meditated OK, hit me with some meditation ideas Chapter 51: Let it go I’m ready to get my Elsa on and let stuff go Chapter 52: How to have unshakable grit I want to roll with the punches, where shall I start? Chapter 53: Stop apologising for who you are I’m ready to be ‘sorry not sorry’, where do I start? Chapter 54: Treat yo’ self I can’t remember the last time I treated myself, where do I start? Chapter 55: The real F word is ‘forgiveness’ I want to forgive, where do I start? Chapter 56: Your house is a bloomin’ mess It’s time to clear your place and get some headspace Chapter 57: The worst has happened What to do right now Chapter 58: Music to my ears Turn up the base and let’s get to work Chapter 59: Night-time ritual Time to dim the lights and find your routine Chapter 60: What if it were all taken? I totally get this, but it’s hard, how can I stay on track? Letter to you Acknowledgements Other resources TRD_00_THMP_Cover.pdf Half Title