Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts

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""Entertaining, illuminating and--when you recognize yourself in the stories it tells--mortifying." --Wall Street Journal "Every page sparkles with sharp insight and keen observation. Mistakes were made--but not in this book!" --Daniel Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right--a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong.Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception--how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it"--;"This edition has a new preface and conclusion, as well as updated research and examples"--;Machine generated contents note: 1.Cognitive Dissonance: The Engine of Self-Justification -- 2.Pride and Prejudice . . . and Other Blind Spots -- 3.Memory, the Self-Justifying Historian -- 4.Good Intentions, Bad Science: The Closed Loop of Clinical Judgment -- 5.Law and Disorder -- 6.Love's Assassin: Self-Justification in Marriage -- 7.Wounds, Rifts, and Wars -- 8.Letting Go and Owning Up.