Who's been sleeping in your head: the secret world of sexual fantasies

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In the largest study ever undertaken on sexual fantasy, world-renowned psychotherapist and researcher Brett Kahr reveals the astonishing truths behind secrecy, shame, and taboo in this groundbreaking book based on surveys of 23,000 men and women from eighteen to ninety years of age. The definitive account of what our fantasies tell us about ourselves, Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head? overturns conventional wisdom about sexuality today.  Read more... Abstract: World-renowned psychotherapist and researcher reveals the astonishing truths behind secrecy, shame, and taboo  Read more... Content: Praise for Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head? Also by Brett Kahr Contents A Note on Caution and Confidentiality Introduction: On the Couch at 7:00 A.M. PART ONE: The Secret Cinema in Our Minds 1 Why We Make Love with the Lights Out 2 The Science of Psychological Fingerprints 3 The Intra-Marital Affair: Staging Our Private Theater PART TWO: A Cornucopia of Fantasies 4 Fantasy 101: Tales of Ordinary Explicitness 5 Group Formations:Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes 6 Cheating: When the Intra-Marital Meets the Extramarital 7 I'm Ready for My Close-Up: Fantasies of Celebrities. 8 Is Your Wife a Lesbian? Is Your Husband Homosexual? Is Your Gay Lover Really Straight?9 On Genital Exhibitionism 10 The Erotic Smorgasbord: Fetishism, Transvestism, Homeovestism, and Other Forms of Object-Love 11 Humiliation and the Infliction of Shame 12 Incest: Do We Really Fancy Our Family? 13 Can I Be Arrested for My Fantasies? Extreme Sexual Violence 14 Teenagers and Children 15 Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice PART THREE: The Origins of Sexual Fantasy 16 The Underbelly of the Normal Fantasy: Erotic Freedom or Sublimated Sadism? 17 "They've Scraped OutMy Soul": Struggling with Shame and Humiliation18 Case History: Paris and the Ginger Pubic Hair 19 The Traumatic Roots of Sexual Fantasy 20 The Fourteen Functions of Sexual Fantasy 21 The Mysterious Boxing Gloves, Or, Can Fantasies Be Trauma-Free? PART FOUR: Sexual Fantasies and the Outside World 22 Do Fantasies Ruin Relationships? 23 Normality and Perversion in the Bedroom and the Boardroom 24 Sanctum Sanctorum, Or, Probing the Unprobable Appendix: Sexual Fantasy Questionnaire Acknowledgments Index.