Respect: Everything a Guy Needs to Know About Sex, Love and Consent

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An all-encompassing guide to help guys navigate sex, relationships and consent in the post-#MeToo world. The world has changed, and the revelations of the #MeToo movement have raised serious questions about how men are raised to understand their own sexuality and the concept of consent. Respect is an all-encompassing guide that sheds light on these issues and more, laying out how men should approach and understand sex and relationships in the 21st century. So instead of simply parroting lines about how they ought to behave, young men can gain a deeper understanding of how they ought to behave. In direct, approachable language, Inti Chavez-Perez delves into the meaning of topics from consent and relationships, to body image, to gender identity and sexual orientation among others, and does so without judgement. Respect is a book for guys to learn from and then go back to, telling you everything you should know and everything you would want to know. About the Author Title Page Copyright Contents Thanks First and Most Important 1: You Below the Belt “is My Dick Normal?” Dick Check Odd Skin The Scrotum Moves Mix of Fluids The P-Spot Erection for No Reason How to Keep Yourself Clean Dick = Dude? Appearance Model and Superhero Good-Looking Enough for Sex Dick Size Too Small for Intercourse? Exact Inches Pills and Operations Feeling Horny Don’t Be Ashamed Not Being Horny Solo Sex No Side Effects Some Ways to Jerk Off When It Gets Boring Porn Comes in Many Forms A World Full of Clichés Not a School for Sex Being Ashamed of Porn Help, I’M Addicted! The Male Role Part of the Culture Guys Restrict Each Other Following Keeps Us from Growing Power Differences 2: Girls The Body Between the Legs Female Ejaculation Girls and Guys Are a Lot Alike Ideals Oppression of the Pussy Sexuality Girls Masturbate How They Pleasure Themselves No Blood During Sex It Doesn’t Have to Be Painful You Can’t Tell if She Has Had Sex Menstruation The Menstrual Monster Attacks! 3: Love In Love Affection at a Distance Longing for Love Love in Real Life Flirting Dare to Make Contact Get the Conversation Going Show Interest The Effect of Alcohol Getting to Know Each Other Meet on Social Media Is He into Guys? Cards on the Table Getting Turned Down Kisses Kissing Nice Guys Start Getting Noticed Going Out Talk to Each Other Everyone Argues Sometimes You Don’t Own Each Other Sex Is Not a Must Be Equal Together The Emotions Roller Coaster Breaking Up Let Your Feelings Out Don’t Want to Hurt Anyone Make the Best of It 4: Respect Show Respect Guys in a Group Respect Technique #1: Respect Yourself Groping Respect Technique #2: Don’t Cross Other People’s Boundaries Sluttiness Respect Technique #3: Stop Spreading Sexual Rumors Honor Respect Technique #4: Don’t Control Other People Space Respect Technique #5: Listen and Give Space Chores Respect Technique #6: Share Chores Equally 5: Sex: The Basics The Image of Sex Making Out Taking Off a Bra First Time Don’t Rush It Many First Times Losing Your Hard-On Yes and No “no” Signals No Exceptions Pressuring Someone into Sex Pressure in a Relationship Set Boundaries 6: Straight or Gay? Who Do I Like? You Don’t Have to Decide Natural Sexuality Other People’s Expectations Not Necessarily Obvious The Fear of Difference Homophobia Can Be Cured Being Straight Being Gay or Bi Facing Homophobia Getting to Know Others Meeting on Gay Dating Apps To Come Out or Not to Come Out 7: Sex with Girls What to Do with Girls Caressing with Your Hands Other Ways to Give Hand Sex With Mouth and Tongue Frot Sexual Intercourse Different Positions Take Things Slow to Start With Premature Ejaculation When the Girl Doesn’t Orgasm Sex Is for Both of You Equality in Sex 8: Sex with Guys Explore Not Everyone Is into the Same Thing Oral Sex Frot Active and Passive Not Climaxing 9: More Sex Sexting Sending Nude Selfies Time for a Dick Pic Recording Porn Anal Sex Using Your Hands and Mouth Anal Intercourse Making It Work Talk About Sex Getting Stuck in a Rut 10: Feeling Good Emotions Shame and Guilt Going Against Your Gut Being Forced into Sex Someone to Talk To Safer Sex Make a Decision How Stis Work Ways to Make Sex Safer Hiv and Chlamydia Practice Makes Perfect Get Tested for Infections Pregnancy Abortion Contraception Responsibility Resources